Are You Experiencing Launch Failure?

Are You Experiencing Launch Failure?

Once upon a time, about fifty years ago, people had everything in place by their early 20s – job, home, marriage, kids.

But times have changed. One in four people in their mid-20s live with their parents. 80% have some form of debt. Marriage rates are lower, kids are coming later, and affordable housing is turning into an oxymoron.

The world is hard. Sometimes it takes a little help and a change in perspective to launch you into the life you want.

If You Can’t Beat ‘Em…

The world isn’t going to go away if you hide under the covers. The stress that comes from college, job searching, independent living and relationships will always be there. The key isn’t to eliminate the stress but to learn how to manage it.

• Write out your biggest anxieties in a journal every morning. Get all of the “yuck” out, and then put it aside and move on with your day.
• Practice letting go through meditation. Focus all of your senses on the present moment. Take deep breaths.
• Plan and prioritize personal time. Schedule something that’s relaxing or fun into every single day. And while you are doing it, be all in! Place the rest of your “to do” list out of sight and mind.

Stop Self Sabotage

We tend to be our own worst enemies. There’s a voice inside our heads that doubts and argues at every opportunity. Sometimes it’s tricky and comes up with clever excuses. Other times it’s downright hateful and mean. Either way, you don’t have to stand for it.

• Spend ten minutes every morning visualizing the future you want in ten years. Come up with one small thing you can do today to start making that future into reality.
• Doing twenty things at once is overwhelming. Doing one is manageable. Pick one thing – just one – from your “to do” list. Make that the focus of your day. Let the rest wait until tomorrow.
• Ask yourself, what’s the worst that could happen? If you fail, will you still be okay? Failure can be a good thing – it teaches us and helps us grow. Dare to fail at something and prove that you will be okay.

Reach Out And Be Vulnerable

Sometimes it feels like the whole world is against you, that no one could possibly relate to your struggles. Surprisingly, it’s very much the opposite. Everyone struggles. It doesn’t make you weak and it isn’t something you have to hide.

• Open up to a friend or family member about how you are feeling. Say it all – the good, bad, and ugly. Be your most truthful, unbridled self. In the words of Dr. Seuss, “The people who mind don’t matter. The people who matter don’t mind.”
• Reach out for help from the experts. Find a life coach, therapist, or support group to guide you through the hard times. You’ll learn useful skills that will make a difference in the rest of your life.
• Be there for yourself! Take the time to get to know yourself, accept the “bad” with the “good,” and practice constant self-acceptance. This is the biggest, longest, most important relationship you will ever have. Learn to be you.

Are you ready to take on the world? Get the support you need with our See Yourself Strong group for young adults ages 19 - 25 led by Brittany Lutz, MSW. 

The group will focus on:

• Coping with stress related to college, jobs, finances and relationships
• Overcoming self-sabotage and procrastination
• Seeking help for anxiety, depression and self-harming behaviors
• Taking the steps towards independent living

Join us January 29 at 5 PM for a free introductory session. Contact us for more details at 703 - 255 - 7012 or contact@totalhealthconcepts.net.